I think it all started in 5th grade. I received a detention from Mrs. Hartnett because I wasn't wearing the right color green on the "free dress day" on St. Patricks Day. You see, I went to a Catholic school growing up and uniforms, plaid skirts and dresses galore, were all the rage. So, when it was a "free dress day" all hell broke lose. Of course, "free dress day" meant we still had to follow rules and guidelines, because what's Catholicism without rules and guidelines. So, this day was in honor of beloved Irishman, Pat. We were told to wear green, and well, I didn't have that much green in my closet, and my parents weren't the kind to rush out and buy me a new outfit to fit in. Probably why I still show up to the grocery store in mis-matched sweats and really don't mind. So, I pulled out this white and navy striped polo that I was in love with at the time. It has smaller green-ish stripes on it, and hell, I was in 5th grade, it was green enough to me.
But apparently, this little blond haired Irish girl (hello-my name is Erin McveryIrishlastname!!!) was here to raise all hell and break all the rules. I was given a detention, and came home and shockingly told my dad (I wasn't a big fan of telling him when I got in trouble.) This act of punishment was enough to cause my even more Irish blooded dad's blood to boil. He.was.pissed. He marched down to Mrs. Mangini's always chilly office, got a nasty remark from the ever delightful secretary, and finally had a "heart to heart" with the principal. She explained that because his daughter chose not to wear the right color green, that "Free Dress Day", I was not only given a detention, but such a "privledge" was probably going to be revoked next year. Yes, I was wearing what Crayola considered "
Mountain Meadow", and well, just not green enough to cut the mustard. For that I going to be punished and burn in hell, and all the fun that goes with eternal life stuff. That mean mean woman, who considered herself at the top of the "Good Catholics" VIP list, was not allowing me into her "Good Catholics" club because I was wearing the wrong color green, and not only myself, but others had to pay for my poor choice in wardrobe. Sigh. I don't even remember if I served that detention or not.
So, it was on this mid-March day that I learned that Catholics weren't all they cracked up to be. It was confirmed a few years later. Could the off-shade color debacle have lead to my downfall in not receiving my 8th-grade diploma? Oh, wait, no-that was because my parents were 2, yes TWO, hours short on their "volunteer" hours. VO-UN-TEER hours. Yet another time when my dad marched around to the back of the school, into Mrs. Mangini's office and said how "silly" they were. Yes, volunteer hours on top of what they already paid to give me a "quality" education-because Catholics don't give their shitt away for free. But they sure expect you to give them your free time-and appropriate color choices. What did these two experiences teach me, besides study up on my
color theory? It taught me that Catholics are on a big power trip, and I kept getting in the way.
Needless to say, that sort of tainted me on organized religion at a far too young of an age. Sure, I participated in the same church's' youth group throughout high school, but lets be honest, all my friends were doing it and if D.A.R.E taught me one thing, it's that I was supposed to do what my friends were doing, right? Oh, yah, and say no to drugs. Check.
Ironically, it was the same parochial school system that opened my eyes to other religions-you mean Catholicism wasn't he be-all-end-all? Shocking. I couldn't wait to tell Mrs. Mangini. It was actually a doctor of theology, Dr. Fox, my senior year of high school, that really stuck a chord with me when it came to religion. She was a former nun that instructed my first world religions class, and I loved it. I finally figured out that I was truly Hindu at heart. Ok, maybe not, but it was something I identified with. Maybe not the caste-system thing-that's really rather a bummer. But the karma idea, and reincarnation theory...I finally felt a connection to religion. It continued with Buddhism , its Four Noble Truths, and went on to Islam, and even skipped on over to basic Christianity. This truly was a class that would impact the rest of my life. Yes, I was born and baptized Catholic, and there are/were certain aspects that are ingrained in me, but ever since I could remember, I believed truths of many other religions, so how could I "claim" Catholicism.
Throughout college, I popped in over to the Mission San Diego for church, not because I felt obligated, but mostly because it was something comfortable and that I wanted to make a connection with. But try as I might, I couldn't.
When I first met R, way back when, he was a still barely in his teens, but connected with religion the same way I did. He was raised Presbyterian, but found the teachings of Buddhism interesting, and couldn't mark one box when asked his religious beliefs. So, up until our engagement, we didn't really discuss or debate as to which religious flag we'd fly.
Shortly after our engagement, we were trying to decide who we would have marry us. I never was one that had to get married in the Catholic church (condemn me to hell if you will, I figure I'm probably already there, along with some great company). I wanted to get married outside, where I felt more of a connection to all things spiritual than any church could ever hold on me. My dear MIL suggested the local pastor at the Presbyterian church, so I joined my future in-laws at a church service (they're just about as a rusty as I am with Catholicism) and honestly, I liked it. I mean, you didn't have to sit and stand nearly as much as my dear Catholic church. Overall-I liked it. It was like "Catholic Light". Something I'd consider when R and I make the spiritual jump-
we've already talked about it just in case I end up the next Octomom or something. Churches are good for that kind of thing, right? I mean, totally the reason to claim stake on a religious conviction.
Having dinner with friends of ours recently, they brought up their latest adventure "Religion of the Quarter". That sounded like music to my ears. They're hoping to start a family soon, and well, they want free diapers, too. And I guess a little moral connection, so their little ones can start out on the right foot (or left, we're not hear to judge.). So, once a quarter they try out a new church. If they like it, they go back and if they don't, they've at least given it a shot. It also makes for hilarious stories, in which one where my friend E apparently raised her hand when asked if she"felt Jesus" and had to go up to the front of the church. And be saved. All by herself. They didn't go back to that church.
It got R and I talking on the way home that night. That's the way to do it. Sort of like I did with my Rogue. I think I know what I kind of "car" I want, but not sure until I test drive them all.
Recently, a friend of mine invited me over to her church. I took that as a sign that we should probably start test driving our religions pretty soon. I mean, I'm pretty darn picky when it comes to my
hosts. I mean, "
there are 19 major world religions which are subdivided into a total of 270 large religious groups, and many smaller ones. 34,000 separate Christian groups have been identified in the world." So, at one per quarter and 4 quarters per year...that's going to take...67.5 years. That's not including the crazy Christian groups, either.
But see, I have this problem. I'm um...liberal. I voted NO on
Prop 8. I think Islam is a beautiful religion, and not all Muslims are crazy fanatics like my FIL claims. Yes, I do believe in one God, but that's not to say there aren't other Gods or those who beleives in
Polytheism are wrong. I don't know about you, but my God is a loving one and loves all and forgives (almost) all. (Hitler-you're so not forgiven.) I think I'm going to have a hard time on this spritial trek.
I keep looking at
Univeral Unitarinism, or what City Mama refers to as"
hippie church", and wonder if it's the right fit for many-religion-loving me, or is it just too liberal? But then I reconsider that thought. Maybe I'm too liberal for religion? I guess I won't know until I try out the waters.
I just want some kind moral basis for our future (adorable) kiddies to relate to. Somewhere where they can look to for guidance and find the positive in spirituality. I also want them to wear whatever shade of green they want and not have a bad taste in their mouth. I want them to appreciate rules and traditions, but also celebrate those traditions different than theirs. I don't know if there is a house of God (or Gods) that will welcome me with open arms. I've grown accostomed to church welcoming you with one arm and flipping you off with the other because your wearing the wrong color green (can you tell I'm bitter?). I want a church that doesn't care if your black or white ar gay or straight or polka dotted or ...you get the picture.
Care to lobby me with your religion? I'm now taking reservations for our 2010 tour....